Lately I've been chewing on the idea that everything in our lives flows from our deepest self-worth. But what exactly is self-worth? Where do we get our self-worth from? And what undermines our worthiness?
I bring this today because it might be an invaluable exercise for you to look at what areas of your life are presenting challenges, and get curious about whether deep down there might be some unworthiness at the heart of the problem.
This is a reality for a growing number of people: I "should" be happy, but I'm not.
I have a client who came to me for this reason, and last week another person in my circle emailed me saying, "It feels like even though I have everything I want (happy marriage, great kids, good job, fairly healthy, great family) , things just feel too 'hard'. Having a positive attitude requires work instead of coming more naturally..."
Over the past few weeks, I've been blogging about the fact that our ancestors’ experiences got passed down to our generation, along with the color of our hair, our height, and our general personality traits.
We'll call my client Rose.
For the past couple of weeks, I've been sharing with you some of my experiences of a decade of work uncovering the ancestral wounds I carried within me. I shared with you the magic of doing your family histogram; and then last week, we talked about how the field of epigenetics has proven that these ancestral wounds do in fact get passed down, and I shared with you my story of the inherited deep sadness, longing and hopelessness.
Last week I shared with you that in Family Therapy there's this cool tool we use called a Family Histogram.
Doing my own histogram helped me discover that my great-grandmother's forbidden love for my great-grandfather, their illicit affair, and their early deaths leaving my grandmother an orphan, had affected my life in ways I hadn't realized before.