This is a reality for a growing number of people: I "should" be happy, but I'm not.
I have a client who came to me for this reason, and last week another person in my circle emailed me saying, "It feels like even though I have everything I want (happy marriage, great kids, good job, fairly healthy, great family) , things just feel too 'hard'. Having a positive attitude requires work instead of coming more naturally..."
I was talking to a client last week and something she said stood out for me because so people often say or think something similar.
My client was telling me about the frustration she's been feeling quite regularly. When I asked her to give me an example of a recent time she felt frustrated....
Then she said the critical thing:
For the past couple of weeks, I've been sharing with you some of my experiences of a decade of work uncovering the ancestral wounds I carried within me. I shared with you the magic of doing your family histogram; and then last week, we talked about how the field of epigenetics has proven that these ancestral wounds do in fact get passed down, and I shared with you my story of the inherited deep sadness, longing and hopelessness.
Forgiveness is a tough word. It's even tougher when we're dealing with actions that we feel are unforgivable.
I'm talking here about major violations in our trust, our rights, and even things that constitute a crime.
As some of you might be aware, the #metoo movement touches me personally. In fact, I jumped right into the the viral wave of women sharing their experience with harassment and abuse merely hours after the movement got started.
When I posted...