Who are you defending yourself against?
This week I'm reflecting on my defenses and how defending myself works against me. In order to help make this more interesting to you (as opposed to being all about me), join me in this exploration. What are you defending yourself against?
What triggers you?
Someone cutting the line in front of you?
Your significant other not responding to a request for something that’s meaningful to you?
Someone failing to recognize your valuable work?
Ever noticed how those closest to you push your buttons the most?
This week, I’ve been helping three of my clients work through some tough challenges in their relationships with their moms. Issues between women and their mothers are common; but so are tough issues with dad, sibling, partner, or boss.
Over the past two weeks we’ve explored how we approach most things in life as a boxing match between two opposites.
In one corner: Fighting/fixing it
In the opposite corner: Settling/tolerating/putting-up-with it
These are the opposite sides of the same coin: Resistance to what is.
What if both fighting and settling just keep you in the thing you actually don’t want?
Last week we talked about how the energy of fighting/fixing helps to keep you feeling stuck. Essentially, the more we hold the energy of opposition to something, the more we fuel our subconscious belief that this is something that is hard to change. We therefore become our own opposing force! We are both the warrior AND the dragon we’re trying to slay!